Painful relationships can take an emotional toll after countless heartbreaks and aches. It is so beautiful to be in love, but not everyone has the best luck with find the perfect one worth it all. Once let downs like this happen, it can be hard to muster the courage to open your heart and try again. Or once you do start dating again, no one potential love interest ever seems to fit the bill. Any of this sounding vaguely familiar? Here are 8 signs that might indicate you’ve close yourself off from love.
You Can’t Stand People Who Are In Healthy Relationships
Sometimes people who’ve been hurt in relationships before really just can’t deal with mushy, super happy couples who on the road to eternal bliss, whether it’s your best friend, a sibling or coworker. This may be a sure indication of being closed off if you can’t even be happy for other people’s happiness.
All Potential Romantic Interests Seem All Wrong
No matter how great a person may seem in the beginning, no one seems worth the hassle of going through the vetting stage, getting to know each other, and making yourself vulnerable to someone new.
You Give Up On Someone Because of The Smallest Hang Up
If you find yourself forming a pattern of ghosting love interests left and right for petty reasons or harmless mistakes they make, you may have some serious emotional blockage. You really don’t want them to get any further than a certain level of closeness with you, because, really, you’re not ready to let anyone in.
You Are Constantly Bitter and Angry For Seemingly No Reason
Although it may seem that you’ve become more hardened and cynical for no reason, it could likely be a result of a hardened heart or a jaded view of anything remotely close to joy.
You Conclude That You Just Aren’t The Relationship Type
At this stage, you may have really given up all hope if you feel like you just aren’t destined to be in a successful relationship. You could be right, but you may also be throwing in the towel by way of rationalizing your fear. Knowing the difference between the two will take some serious introspection.
You Won’t Give A New “Type” A Chance
Maybe you’ve always had a type in the past, but did any of those relationships work out? Being truly open to love is being open to new possibilities, and trusting that the universe may send you the perfect person in a package that you aren’t akin to. Shutting someone down because they don’t fit your type is closing yourself off to so many romantic possibilities.
You Think Everything is Too Good to Be True
After coming out on the other side of a bad breakup or two, you may feel like anything good is doomed to eventually fail. This is a definite sign that you are closed off to love and still need to deal with baggage, find a way to see that there is hope in moving forward, and position yourself to experience new things.
You Are Still Stuck On Your Ex
As the saying goes, an ex-lover is an ex for a reason. Going back to someone who assumably was no good for you – hence why the relationship ended – is a sure fire way to stay stuck in the past and closed off from a new fresh, loving potential relationship.